How are you doing these days? Long time no see, am I right?
Well, life has had its up and down. I guess it's the same for everyone. Life is just complicated and fragile. We've got to live through another day. No matter what. Life will go on.
I have learnt a few lessons in 2020 and early 2021, here are a few of them :
- you don't know when you will see the people you love
- always seize the opportunity life gives you
- never say no to life
- cherish every moment like it's the last
- don't let people get you down
- let go of anything that doesn't bring you joy
- no every battle is worth fighting
- trust your judgment
- don't let people make you think you're worth less than you are
- appearences are deceiving
- people always show their true colors
- people come and go and that's life
What did 2020 and 2021 have taught you thus far?
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2020 has been quite the year for all of us. Whether we have had to deal with cancellation, deceptions, heart-breaks or tears, it has been a rollercoaster. I hope none of your family or close ones have been suffering of Covid-19. It is quite serious and nothing like what we have encountered before.
How I feel about the rising violence
What both scares me and pains me is the reaction of people and the rising violence. I don’t know what’s going on in your country but here in France, people are going nuts. It’s quite scary to hear all the terrible things humans do to each other. I don’t understand why. I don’t understand when people decided that they can do whatever they want and hurt whoever they want. We are all lost and sad. We are all stuck behind closed doors. We can’t do all we used to do. We have to make up for a new reality. We have to adjust and evolve. I am not sure everyone is realizing that. Many people are buying a lot of things. They are not caring for other or following government guidelines. They are only criticizing the government. I’m not sure they are doing the right thing either… But who am I to judge? I’m not in politics. I don’t have to be the one giving the bad news. I don’t have to make huge life and death decisions… So how can I judge them? I’m getting scared for our future if this is what humanity has become. Please tell me there is still hope out there for a better future...How I feel about hunting
I have always been an advocate to the animal cause. I have a lot of empathy for people but there is one “sport” I will never agree with. Hunting is for me nothing but cruelty. I will never agree with a “sport” that celebrates and congratulates killing. I believe the only person who can decide who lives and who dies is god. One should never kill. An animal is as much of a being as a human. I have such strong feelings that I believe people promoting it should be part of an experiment. In this experiment, they should experience what animals feel when they are hunted. I’m sorry if you are a fan of hunting. Honestly, I could never understand it but you are allowed to if you do. I will never condemn you for liking it. I only think it should not exist.What’s up with me?
I don’t think I have mentioned it here yet. I have lost my job on my 27th birthday. Covid-19 was the cause but also the remedy. The job in itself wasn’t all that bad. It was not ideal but nothing is. The team was nice. It was at a walking distance from my home which is always highly appreciated. It was quite the challenge and didn’t end up being what I thought it would be. It was a complicated 1 year and a half. To make ends meet, I had to work two jobs. I still didn’t have enough money to put some aside. I had a boss that was quite a piece of work at the beginning. Honestly, it wasn’t easy on all sides. In the end, I guess Covid-19 gave me a chance. Unfortunately, with the current situation, it has been complicated to find another job. I’m hoping to find one soon.I have also moved in with my boyfriend (Mr. B for those who follow me on Instagram). We are living in a smaller and recent flat. It has a big balcony which is great. It’s very cute and cosy with a lovely industrial vibe.
I’m currently in lockdown. I don’t think much of it as I have been in that position since March. I only went to work in the office a couple of days in August. It does break my heart that I can no longer go to the gym. I have been going there everyday. It helps with my mental health. I have suffered from anxiety so it was amazing to relieve some stress with sport. It was also some place I could go and see people. I guess I will have to get used to working out at home again. Finding the motivation to do it, has not been easy. Have you managed to do it?
What about you? How have you been feeling?
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It’s been quite the rollercoaster. I’ve had a complicated month of september to say the least... I’m having trouble staying positive so this post is very good for my mental health. I'm strong believer of the quote: "life gets worst before it gets better". So I'm looking out for the best part. The best is yet to come.
Without further due, you will find my list below of 5 things I'm grateful for :
1. Mr B. we have had our ups and down like every couple but in the end, I’m glad we stuck together.
2. My family and friends. I don’t honestly know how I would have gotten through this month - even past months - without them.
3. My birthday parties. I absolutely bloody loved them. It was nice and cosy. I cooked for my friends. They got to see our new flat.
4. Kind People. In general, I was blessed to talk and exchange with pretty human and helpful people. They helped me get through a few things.
5. The weather. I love how it finally is. I was getting so tired of summer. Summers here in France are so warm… I hate it.
I have to admit I was also grateful for my gym. It has been a lovely escape. Unfortunately due to Covid-19, I have been deprived from my daily dose of fitness. Can you feel how crushed I am?
I want to know how you’ve been too. Let me know what’s up. How are you feeling lately?
What are you grateful for?
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Hello everybody,
On the 22nd of september, I turned 25 years old. I had the best day ever. Almost all of my friends made the trip. We danced, laughed, ate cake and drank until 4 am in my favourite pub. I'm the luckiest girl on earth. I have awesome friends. It was one of the best days of my life.
Since then, I've been reflecting on my life. I am happy. Sometimes a little less. I tend to care too much and expect a lot of myself and from people around me. I can be pretty brutal. I easily forgive but never forget. I think too much. I want honesty and warmth. I crave attention and give my whole to everyone. I'm not sure I should keep doing that...
I've began this year to do a list of 25 THINGS TO DO BEFORE I'M 25. So here are a few things I did or plan on doing before I turn 26.
#1 Get my diploma.
#2 Get a new flat closer to my friends.
#3 Throw a big birthday party.
#4 Book a big trip to a far away country (California, here we come ♡)
#5 Go to the restaurant alone.
#6 Go for a walk alone.
#7 Travel alone.
#8 Do thalasso.
#9 Go back to brown hair.
#10 Go shopping alone.
#11 Drink less and eat healthier.
#12 Show more appreciation.
#13 Enjoy little things.
#14 Take small breaks.
#15 Cut some slacks.
#16 Be braver.
#17 Get a big tattoo.
#18 Shop less.
#19 Sell stuff.
#20 Work less and rest more.
#21 Learn to let a go.
#22 Be less serious all the time.
#23 Tell people I love them.
#24 Be more grateful.
#25 Try to be bold and bright.
What's on your list?
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Hello my lovebirds,
I hope all is well.
I'm someone who tends to take things at heart. I get involve and I care too easily. I feel too deeply. I understand too much. I tend to have too much empathy - more often than so for people I shouldn't feel for. I don't know when it all happened but I've grown accustomed to taking someone's pain as my own. It can be quite devastating. Over the years, I have managed to keep my emotions on check somehow by accepting and doing 3 things.
#1 Perfection doesn't exist
This one is something we've all struggled with. Society and movies keep telling us to push further. To give it our best, to achieve perfection on our way to the top. The truth is perfection doesn't exist and it would be boring if it did. Life is messy. It doesn't always go your way. No matter how much you try to fix something, some things cannot be mended. You have to accept that people, life and things are not perfect. Nothing is black or white. You might have failed today but you can still succeed tomorrow. You can always do better. Nothing is set. Everything changes.#2 'No' is always an option
For the longest time, I was one of those people who would agree to do things they didn't want to do. I would say 'yes' simply to please someone. I have a tendecy to put myself last. I have this crazy habit of considering others before me. I'm working on it. I'm working on learning that saying 'no' is okay. You can choose yourself. You don't have to hurt someone else in the process either. You can be direct and decide what your priority is. Your choices define who you are so don't do something for the sake of it! Oh and remember that people always leave and in the end, you only have yourself. Don't loose yourself trying to please someone else.#3 Start a fuck budget
I read the book The Life-Changing Magic of Not Giving a F**k and it was amazing. I've grown into someone who doesn't give too much fuck to people who don't deserve one second of my time. Life is too short to give fucks to things or people who don't deserve it. Now, before deciding on doing or caring, I stop and take a second to ask myself : 'would this person do the same thing for me? Does this bring me joy? Does it sit right with me? Does it improve my life or the life of someone I love?' If the answer is no then I'm taking a step back and leaving for the next chapter.Do you have any experience or thoughts to share with us?
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Hello my sweet birds,
I hope all is well.
I've been toying with the idea of writing about bravery. Over the years, it has become something quite important. It can have different shapes and forms. Yet, I can observe bravery everyday and still be amazed by how brave people are. There is no small act of bravery. Sometimes being brave involves getting out of bed and sometimes it takes more than that. Sometimes it's simply standing up for yourself or someone else. Sometimes it's choosing to take the high road when all you want to do is fight. Sometimes it's kicking life to the curb. Sometimes it's simply breathing. It often involves getting out of your comfort zone.
I've never considered myself as brave. I've always felt like I was playing it safe. Always saying the right thing at the right time. Being the perfect little girl everyone wanted me to be. I'm pretty sure that for a while I was that girl. The one that had to always be perfect. Be who everybody wanted me to be. Oh boy, that girl with the broken smile was not happy. She was bittersweet.
She was a tune I could not play. It took me a long time and a big struggle to realize it. I made a promise to myself that day. Every night that I cried myself to sleep thinking that tomorrow would be my very last day, I decided. I decided that if life, god, jesus or karma decided to let me live and to give me another chance I would be better. I would do better. I would overcome my fear. I will no longer let my fears rule me.
If anyone would have told me back then that 5 years later I would still be alive, I would have not believed it. The odds were so against me. I could barely walk. My lungs were failling. My liver was crappier than ever. Breathing simply felt like it was taking away all the strength I had left. I was sick. Very sick but also tired of life pushing me around. I could barely get out of bed. Everything hurt.
And then, I got better. I got so much better. I could walk again. I could breath. I don't think I've felt happier in my life than the day they told me I was cured. I would never feel so helpless. And then, for the first time in my life I was safe.
What I mean here by sharing this part of my story is that you shouldn't wait for life to knock you down to decide to do something brave, to be brave. That's when the magic happens. Make the most of today. You can never know how much time you have left on your clock...
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Life is a precious thing. I don't know when or how but at some point we all forgot how precious life can be. I rejoy in the simpliest moments of life. I love afternoons and evenings with my family of friends. I can't take life too seriously.
I have learnt that I can't stay mad. I can't blame anyone. I get tired easily. I don't see the point. I don't give a fuck. It doesn't fit into my fucks budget. Carring about what they did to me or what they thought of me, are beyond me. Something I used to do. For someone who never thinks before she speaks, I was always bothered with the results.
Some people just don't matter. Surely, I will get mad. I will shot and scream. I will argue. I will cry but in the end, I will let go. It will stop bothering me. It took me a lot of efforts and a lot of time but I can now let go. It's such a powerful thing to be able to let go of what doesn't please you. It makes you happy.
It has freed my time and my mind. It's easier. Why did I even care in the first place? What's the point of caring for people who don't care about you or what they do to you?
If I had any advice to give to you, my bird, it would be to stop giving a fuck. It's such a wonderful thing.
Dance like nobody is watching. Speak like no one is listening - they are only pretending anyway. Put yourself first once in a while. Do something just for you. Be yourself and fuck the rest. Live today as if it was your last.
What if today was the last day of your life? What would you do?
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Hello my birds,
I hope all is well for you. It must not come as a surprise but I have decided to do my kind of resolutions. I don't believe in resolutions so I will call these: "my small goals for 2018". I've been thinking and there are a few things I need to give up. This year is going to be my last year as a student - if everything goes right. I need to sort out a few things and get a grip on other things. I mean, I should be more of an adult.
#1 Declutter my life
I feel like I have too many things. I have too many things in my life, on my mind. I need to sort everything out. Reduce the amount of shit I own and buy. I've already manage to reduce the food I waste. I want to reduce the amount of plastic I use. I want to declutter my wardrobe. I want to have a big change. Something different. I want less crap.
#2 Take more time to rest
I'm always rushing. Going places and collecting sleepless nights. I need to remember to take timeout and rest. I need to remember that choosing myself is okay. I have been feeling very tired. I think I might need a good week off...
#3 Travel more
I love traveling. I want to discover new cities. I need to meet new people. See what this world is all about. Adventure is calling. Who's down to be my travel buddy? Let's leave tomorrow.
What are the things you want to leave in 2018?
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Hello my birds, happy new year! I hope all is well.
2017 - This year has been quite challenging for me. I lost the most important person in my life. It was my first Christmas and New Year Eve without my grandmother. I would spend every sunday at her house. I used to spend every Christmas break with her as well. It was our tradition. We would all come to her house on Christmas morning and have a big family meal. I would take care of her whenever she would need me. She was my rock, my Italian roots - a part of me. There isn't a day that goes by when I don't miss my nana. She was a big part of my world.
2017 had started so well and yet it unravelled a bigger loss than I expected. The world has become such a messed up world. This year was the definition of change.
I fell in love with someone I shouldn't have loved at all... I wasn't careful enough and fell for the wrong guy. It broke my heart all over again.
I also made a few mistakes along the way. Although, it was nothing major. What's for sure is that I learnt a lot in 2017. I learnt a lot about who I am as a person.
I cannot stand bullshit. Most of all, I don't have time for anything else than sheer happiness.
I got a new intership. I made some new friends and lost other friends along the way - or maybe I had already lost them a long time ago. I had a few good times and not so good times. I had a lot of sleepless nights. I danced and smiled more than I thought I could. I met different people. I said 'yes' to life more than I should have said 'no'.
If I had to sum it up, it would be someting like this:
1. I am human. I am not perfect. I am flawed but I'm not broken.
2. True friends will always stand by you no matter what. Friends are the family you pick.
3. Life has to be cherished and lived to the fullest. - aka late nights, good food, good drinks and tired feet.
4. Being busy and focused. Finding my way.
5. People. Don't get me wrong, they can be pretty awful. They are - at times - heartless monsters but sweet Jesus, - at other times - they can be so lovely. They can make me feel so special and loved. In the end, isn't that all one can wish for?
What are your 5 good things from 2017?
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